Aug 30

My glass must have a hole in it!

Glass half full

I have a problem.  A full glass must not be in my monetary future.  As soon as I get some money saved, I spend it.  I just can’t seem to hang on to it.  Every time my glass gets down to half full, something or someone fills it up.  Then I “drink” it down, by spending it.  Sometimes this cycle takes months or even years.

Also, like most people, I’m on the spiritual roller coaster of life.  Some days I’m on top of the hill and others I’m at the bottom.  When I’m on top, my glass if full.  I think more clearly and focus on scripture.  My behavior and words show it.  When I’m at the bottom, with a half empty glass, my decision-making leaves a lot to be desired.

It makes me wonder, “how do I stay on top of the hill?”  Why do I wonder?  I just answered that in the previous paragraph.  It all has to do with the landmark in the distance, a.k.a. my focal point.  Where am I spending my time? What are the words that I’m speaking, hearing or seeing?  This landmark is used by the farmer to strike an even land.  It’s used by boaters like a lighthouse.  Every profession has a guideline or a code.

My landmark is scripture.  Also known as the Word and Truth.  In the Bible, scripture refers to debt 7,509 times.  It’s not a positive reference.  As our friend Dave Ramsey says, “debt is dumb.”  So, what can we do to get out of it.  We first need to identify that it’s there.  Then we have to do something about it.

This realization of your deficit is the first step in going from BLINDness to SIGHT.  Talking about it is one thing.  Doing something about it is another.

Tell me your thoughts.

Aug 29

How can your glass be half full when you keep drinking out of it!?

Have you ever wondered about those people who always look at life with a positive attitude.  Let’s say, God forbid, someone close to them was in an accident.  You may hear some people say how unfortunate, unlucky or untimely for that to happen.  While they are saying how fortunate, lucky and timely they were. They say things like, “it could have been a lot worse”, “someone must have been watching over you”, or “you’re very fortunate”, “lucky” or even “blessed.”

There are two ways to look at this, as there is with most things.  Do you see the glass as “half full” or “half empty.”  This is just an illustrative way to tell how someone is positive or negative.  I’ve been a “half full” guy for quite some time, maybe forever.  You’re probably not surprised.  Some say, it’s in my genes. Someday, you should meet Wally and Mary Jo Wagner.  Then you’ll know that’s probably the case.  In addition to that attitude, they started me off with a full glass.

There’s no doubt that my parents gave me a very good start, but I’ve lived more than half of my life away from home.  Beyond that, I’ve associated myself with very positive people.  They are the people that I listen to and go to for advice.  They are the kind of people that I aspire to be.  They keep filling me up.

Do you have people like that in your life?  Are you like that for someone else?

I’d love to hear from you.

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Aug 28

The 7 Myths why people get Stuck – #4

This is the fourth in a series of posts regarding the 7 Myths that keep people stuck.

As I’ve said before, we all have our own story.  None are less important than others

We also have stories that we’ve been telling ourselves or others have been telling us.  We’re hearing things like….

Myth #4 – “No guts, no glory.”

The key point from this is “Risk”

The assumption that’s false is “Risk will yield reward”

The truth is “The right risk at the right time in the right way with the right people will yield reward.”

The real story is that I know people who takes all kinds of risks and simply take recklessness with them wherever they go. It’s true that, in his day, Evil Knievel was rewarded for his risk.  Where did it get him? Bernie Madoff risked everything.  For a while he was a financial giant.  Where is he now?  It’s not to say you shouldn’t ever take a risk.  That’s what I’m doing now.  There’s a risk that this may offend someone.  Suffice to say that not all risk taking yields a reward.

Myth … BUSTED!

Excerpt taken from The Deeper Path by Kary Oberbrunner, published by Baker Books, available here via Amazon. More info www.DeeperPathBook.com   www.amazon.com

Aug 26

The 7 Myths why people get Stuck – #3

This is the third in a series of posts regarding the 7 Myths that keep people stuck.

As I’ve said before, we all have our own story.  None are less important than others

We also have stories that we’ve been telling ourselves or others have been telling us.  We’re hearing things like….

Myth #3 – “If you can dream it, you can achieve it”

The key point from this is “Imagination”

The assumption that’s false is “Imagination guarantees you will achieve what you want.”

The truth is “Vision is only the first step in possibly achieving what you want.”

The real story is that I know people who have unlimited amounts of ideas that never amount to anything. My kids have a great imagination.  Just because they can think of fun stories or talk about places to go doesn’t mean that it can happen.  We have to realize that there is more to success than just imagining it. There’s often a lot of work that needs to be done.  While I was in the hospital, I prayed for God to heal me and imagined that my vision was restored. After that, I went out and began to seek medical advice.  I didn’t just lay there.  

Myth … BUSTED!

Excerpt taken from The Deeper Path by Kary Oberbrunner, published by Baker Books, available here via Amazon. More info www.DeeperPathBook.com   www.amazon.com

Aug 23

The 7 Myths why people get Stuck – #2

This is the second in a series of posts regarding the 7 Myths that keep people stuck.

As I’ve said before, we all have our own story.  None are less important than others.

We also have stories that we’ve been telling ourselves or others have been telling us.  We’re hearing things like….

Myth #2 – “Winners never quit and quitters never win”

The key point from this is “Persistence”

The assumption that’s false is “Stick with something long enough and you will win.”  That’s crazy.  Do you mean to tell me that if I keep golfing some day I’ll be a really good golfer and make the professional tour?  I don’t think so.  It’s OK to be passionate about something that you’re not that good at (which translates into golf for me).  You can’t “hang your hat” on persistence getting you to the goal.  That’s a recipe for disaster. What if I told myself that I was a failure unless I made the tour?  That’s only going to lead to more disappointment.  I’ve chosen to keep things in perspective and enjoy the game when it makes sense.

The truth is “Healthy self-awareness of one’s strengths and weaknesses combined with persistence can convert into winning.”

The real story is that I know people who never gave up their dream but failed to acknowledge they were completely unqualified to achieve it.  

Myth … BUSTED!

Excerpt taken from The Deeper Path by Kary Oberbrunner, published by Baker Books, available here via Amazon. More info www.DeeperPathBook.com   www.amazon.com

Aug 21

The 7 Myths for why people get Stuck – #1

I’m taking a bit of a departure from my regular blog. MY HOPE with these type of posts, is that I can add more value to more of my readers (a.k.a. tribe…you).

This is first in a series of posts regarding the 7 Myths that keep people stuck.

Who else grew up at 4347 Portage Road in Wayne, OH?  Anyone, with the exception of my brothers and sisters?  No?  Well, let me tell a common story.  It’s the story of the individual.  You see, no one person has the same story as another.  We’re all created different in God’s image.  We all have our own story.

Almost as important, we also have stories that we’ve been telling ourselves or others have been telling us. We’re hearing things like….

Myth #1 – “No Pain, no gain”.

The key point from this is “Hard Work”.

The assumption that’s false is “Pain produces promotion”

The truth is “Choosing the right Pain produces promotion”

The real story is that I know plenty of people that work their butt off every day and never reach their full potential.  They go to their grave with THAT inside them.  Think about some of the people in your life that fit that description.  We’ll never know what truly was in them.  I had a friend tell me once that some of us aren’t supposed to know our purpose until we get to heaven.  Maybe that’s true, but I for one want to do everything within my power to exercise that muscle.

Myth … Busted!

Excerpt taken from The Deeper Path by Kary Oberbrunner, published by Baker Books, available here via Amazon. More info www.DeeperPathBook.com   www.amazon.com

 

Aug 16

I’m a self-published author!

Holy cow!  Last week, I wrote the Eye Need Hope Manifesto.  This week, actually yesterday, it was accepted as a book on Amazon.com!  This is one of those moments where every sentence that I write could literally end with an exclamation point!  (see?)

If you were to go to Amazon and search “Eye Need Hope”, [go ahead and try it] my e-book comes up 2nd – right after Season 2 of Charlie’s Angels.  (I used to love that show)  I’m not sure why that came up, but so did a sewing machine (from a few blog posts ago).

What can be learned from this?

  1. Don’t negotiate with your dreams – Paul Martinelli
  2. Learn about The Deeper Path Payoff – Kary Oberbrunner
  3. Changes in life can make you BITTER or BETTER.  I’ve made my choice.

Some of you have written me personal notes of encouragement.  I truly appreciate that.  If you have time, please go to my blog www.eyeneedhope.com or www.amazon.com and review my book.  If you like it, submit your review.  (the more stars the better ;-))  It will help me to get other people interested in finding HOPE.

Do you know what Harriett Tubman said when asked about how she felt after freeing thousands of slaves?  She said, “I could have freed a thousand more if they knew they were slaves”.

In my case, I can’t help people find HOPE unless they realize that there is something else out there.

When is the last time that you’ve felt like you’re in a hopeless situation?

Aug 13

Eye Need Hope

When I started blogging, while being partially BLIND, I said that I wanted to do something with my current circumstances.  It’s always been my mission to make “this” count for something.  My purpose is to help others that are struggling to handle adversity.  These “others” can come from all walks of life with all sorts hurdles.  The hurdles can can be financial, physical, emotional or relational.  Just to name a few.

The SIGHT of others being impacted is powerful.  This brings me to the next chapter of life.  Two years ago my initial blog left me “naked” and vulnerable.  The next two years will be more of the same, times 100.  With the help of my coach and mentor, Kary Oberbrunner, I will be building a new platform.  This will consist of a book, website (www.eyeneedhope.com), blog, twitter feed (for all you tweeters :-)) and speaking engagements.

My purpose is to offer hope to those that are hurting and healing while trying to overcome the obstacles that life puts in front of us.

When thinking of a name there were many to chose from that were appropriate.  I settled on Eye Need Hope.  When I searched on “I Need Hope” on Amazon the first three results were books dealing with how to “have” HOPE.  The fourth result was the following.

Brother XL2600I Sew Advance Sew Affordable 25-Stitch Free-Arm Sewing Machine

A sewing machine, really?  I’m not quite sure what to make of that.  Well, I have some work to do.

This is Brian Wagner stepping out further than before with a VISION to impact as many lives as possible.

Aug 05

The Top 3 Reasons This Is A Great Time Of Year!

Is it time to go back to the Southwyck Mall in Toledo?  Who doesn’t want to go to the mall, not to mention the Lion Store?  I hate to break it to you, but they’re both closed.  Sorry, but when I was a kid, I used to love this time of the year.  Not because we got to go the mall, where we’d buy some new jeans and a nice shirt or two.

It wasn’t even because we got our annual pair of shoes.  Keep in mind, these were not fancy shoes.  They weren’t even tennis shoes.  We didn’t call them tennis shoes until after high school.  They were always gym shoes.  This was appropriate since the only time that I wore them was in gym class.  In most cases, because we lived on a farm, they were work boots and, as I got older, cowboy boots.  (I know, it’s tough to picture, so here’s a sample circa 1985.  Sadly, this is the last pair that I’ve owned. 🙁 )

Boots

But, I digress.  To this day, I actually despise shopping.  The real excitement, for me, was going out to eat.  Sometimes, we even went to a restaurant other than Frisch’s Big Boy.  I remember going to the Oak ‘n Bucket a time or two.  The one that brings back the most vivid memories is the “Top of the Tower” in Toledo.  From up there, you could see the river and everything!  It’s not always about the food.  When it isn’t, it’s about the experience of eating the food.

Maybe I dislike shopping because of all the times I used to walk in front on my dad.  In those days he was a fast walker with long strides.  Every once in awhile he’d clip the back of my heel and pop my shoe off. “If you’re going to walk in front of me, you’d better walk faster!”   “Sorry Dad”. He likes shopping more these days.  Maybe’s it’s because his strides aren’t quite as long. He says that he’s mellowed like a fine wine with age.  We’ll leave that to someone else’s judgment.  Regardless, the food was good.

The 3 Reasons This Is A Great Time Of Year

  1. Family Time – It’s always important to my family, but as summer comes to an end we’re focused on spending more time as a family.  
  2. Clean Slates – If you were in school a while ago, you would have only used chalk on a blackboard. Those blackboards were thoroughly cleaned throughout the year, but I remember the first day of school how those boards looked as good as new.  That matched my excitement for being there to learn and play with friends.
  3. Inspired to Have Hope – This is something that I took for granted growing up.  I came from a great (big) family and never hand reason to want.  There were, and are, many kids that came to school with the hope of a better life, the hope for a hot meal, or for hope of unconditional love.

What do you like about this time of year?  I’m sure that there are more than three.