Sep 20

What Happened … abbreviated.

Many have you have never heard the story.  In an effort to keep you informed, I’ve shortened the original “What Happened” post from September of 2011.

I used to remember things in reference to significant events in my life…my marriage, the birth of my children, Buckeye’s National Championship.  Times have changed.  Now every day is a new life.  When I wake up and am able to see the alarm clock, I’m happy. Blowing my nose means I’m breathing.  Sneezing is exciting.  Swallowing my food without a feeding tube makes me giddy.  Seeing my children is the greatest activity I know.  My wife is my life.

Last March, I went to Cleveland for sales training.  During the course of the day I noticed that the PowerPoint presentations were becoming doubled on the screen.  When the day was over I walked to my car and gingerly left the parking garage.  During the ride home I had to stop several times.  I called home to tell my wife what was going on and that I would try to get some rest.  Maybe the symptoms would go away.  They never did.  Several hours later I arrived home safely where I flopped on the couch.  At 3:00 in the morning I woke up and went to go to bed.  On the way I stopped for a look in the bathroom mirror.  For the first time, I saw what you see today

After the kids were off to school we went to the ER. When the testing was over the doctor came in and said, “You’re going to want to consider someone operating on your brain stem. Your conditions will only get worse as the bleeds of the cavernous malformation become more frequent. We have 3 options for surgeons in this field. The best option is in AZ.” That evening Connie and the kids came to visit me in the hospital. I think they were much more nervous than me. At that point I heard a clock start ticking. It was a clock that I heard day and night. Surgery  was done to keep the symptoms from getting worse. Only in certain cases did they get better and 25% of the patients ended up worse than before the surgery. On April 1st, yes April Fool’s Day, I had brain surgery.   It was a success.

During the next month one eye started to open.  The other did not.  When the lid is forced open my vision is double.  I tried my best to go to business meetings.  My friend from Mainline took me to my first meeting on April 19th.  I can only imagine how I looked.  Fortunately, the customer is an old friend.  He made it easier for me.  Most of the meeting was spent looking out my little portal to the world.  A little hole with eyelashes…which is usually opened by my index finger.  Since that day, I’ve had many drivers.  Sometimes my coworkers or friends are kind enough to pick me up.  Mostly I have the prettiest driver in the world.  She’s actually a lot more than that.   She’s my wife, Connie.

It’s been almost a year,  and my vision hasn’t changed and neither has my faith.  My impact on people is very noticeable.  My portal on the world cuts out a lot of “noise” and shows people for what they are.  All of my meetings are intentional.  There are no occasions that don’t matter.

During my time without a driver’s license I’ve had some other drivers that may not have been as pretty, but were certainly admired by my family and me. .  Those were my co-workers at Mainline.  These people picked me up and dropped me off at home or wherever I needed to be.  Eric, Tony, Curt, Dianne, Greg, Jim, Mark, Jack, Don, Phil and Randy – THANK YOU!  There are not many others at Mainline that know my situation.  Among them is the management team.  They’ve given me a sense of ease that allowed me to focus on healing.  I’m not sure that I could’ve done it without them.  In October, I regained my driving privileges.

Regardless of my condition I am blessed to be here today.  There are many of you that would give anything to have a loved one back in most any condition.  While it’s true that I’ve become more of a burden to many people, I hope that my positive attitude and impact out-weighs that burden.

After all, I am alive.

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Sep 19

ACTION

This is something that I have no problem with.  If you’re stuck and wondering which way to go, please let me know what’s going on with you.  A resolution to your problem may just be as simple as taking Action.

Many people have said that waiting for a product to be 100% perfect, before shipping, is a mistake.  Get the idea or concept to a good 80-90% and ship it.  Granted, this doesn’t apply to products that are substantiated in the industry.  This is more about concepts, ideas and new products.

After 4 weeks of separation, we got the idea, yesterday, to go see my oldest son, Grant.  We were fortunate that he was available, so we met him for a brief tour and dinner.   Even as we left Columbus, we didn’t have it all figured out.  Sadly, Colin and Jess weren’t able to join us.  From that perspective, the trip wasn’t perfect. Yet, it was perfect.  Perfect day, perfect drive, perfect dinner, perfect son.

This experience was quite a change, in the message, from years past.  The best way to change your thoughts and the message that you’re putting out is to change the message that you’re putting in.  We are what we think about.  For me, this meant spending a lot of time reading, discussing and engaging in conversation.  Mentees meeting with mentors is very important, but there is much for each to teach and learn.

With many different feelings surmounting it’s always a good idea to listen to yourself.  Much like a runner needs to listen to their body, the person needs to listen to themselves.

Where are you ?  Come see what I see

 

Sep 17

DECISION POINT – Principle

This is the second of three posts, that I mentioned yesterday.  They are intended to give you a different VIEW of me.  I’d also like for you to look at you differently.

This is when I decided to find out what was going on and research alternatives.  The alternative was to remain ignorant and stay curled up in a ball waiting for something to happen.  This was a non-event for me.  Have you decided?

In the midst of all of the feelings that I was having, there were emotional decisions to be made.  Should I be complacent?  Am I a victim or a victor?  Are my emotions in control or am I in control of my emotions?

The physical decisions were paramount.  Do I react or initiate?  How much worse will it get before it gets better?  I needed to get help, but from who?  My situation was unavoidable.  The result of my situation was up to me.

Who is the result of your situation up to?

 

Sep 16

BLINDness – The PERSON – Story

This and the next two blog posts are intended to give you a different VIEW of me.  I’d also like for you to look at you differently.  Please tell me what you think.

The first mental hurdle to overcome is that this didn’t happen to me, it happened for me.  Before this happened I was content with the status quo.  I didn’t know of the impending event.  Once it did happen it was difficult for me to see anything.  In essence, I first lost my VISION and then I lost my SIGHT.  I became distracted and lost focus.  That’s when I had a choice.  I could either live with the current situation or search for a remedy.  Pursuit of a diagnosis was the “easy” part.  Acceptance of the resolution was “difficult”.

I felt scared and fearful for what was to come.  At the same time I knew where I was going.  This didn’t mean that I wasn’t angry.  There were certainly times for that.  It was hard not to feel sad that you’ve been chosen to be a victim.

After the hemorrhage in March of 2011, I lost my physical sight.  I wasn’t sure what to do or think.  What I did was got help.  After consulting with my physician, I pursued a resolution.

This physical sequence of events matches my spiritual one.  I doubt that’s a coincidence.

That’s my story.  What’s yours?

 

Sep 10

Film at 11 … again?

No.  Overcoming adversity doesn’t always make the news

If you’re like me, you still like to watch the evening news.  I’ll admit, the local news always seems to include pet owner issues, wrong way drivers, meth, death and drugs.  The national news brings us Bria Williams and he’s hard not to like.  We still find other redeemable portions.

Strange sidenote, why do I remember so many news anchor names from the past?  Probably because my mom and dad always enjoyed watching the news together.  Connie and I are the same way. Coincidence?  Common thread?

On occasion there will be a story about someone who is doing something to improve their situation or that of others.  The story will come at the very end of the newscast to leave us viewers with a positive view of the world or, at least, that news channel.  In the end, after all, it IS all about the ratings.:-)

In the past few months and years, we’ve all seen the remarkable stories.  These dreadful stories include the young girl in Hawaii that lost her arm to a shark.  The aspiring model that lost an eye because of spinning airplane propeller.  The girl in the south that lost many limbs and skin due to MRSA.  All three of these horrific stories come with a great sense of faith, healing and power being shared.  These are incredible people.  At a minimum their story is incredible.

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What makes them different from you and me?  Is it more than just their circumstance?  The guy in the picture above could be any one of us.

The past few years haven’t been easy for you and me.  But, time goes on.  Babies are born, people die, tests are taken, classes are held.  We still have to put gas in the tank and find time to just “be.”  Time doesn’t stop.  I remember coming home from my surgery in Phoenix.  From the minute that I walked in the door, I realized that none of my problems had gone away.  I had lost most of my eyesight and my daily life on earth kept right on going.  That’s when I noticed that the world was “happening to me.”

So, how could I switch that around?  How could I “happen to the world”?

After much thought, prayer and discussion I’ve concluded that I CAN happen to the world by offering my life experiences and helping others to overcome adversity.

In my recent post about the Bearcats and the Buckeyes, I gave you the H for “honesty” in HOPE.

The second part to gaining HOPE is all about giving.  The “O” is for Offering.  We have to offer ourselves to others.

You see, “no one cares how much you know until they know how much you care” – Theodore Roosevelt.

The term Offering can be applied in so many ways.  If you think about it, the best way is for you to step outside of your comfort zone and do something that no one is expecting.  My kids think it’s weird when I say “hello” to people who I don’t know or ask the waiter/waitress’ name.  Do those people think that I’m weird?  Maybe, but I’ll bet you more of them like it than hate it.  What can it hurt?  Is that something that you normally do?  Why don’t you try it?  What’s the worse thing that could happen?

You would make someones day, that’s for sure.  It might even be yours.

What are some thiings that you can do to offer yourself to others that are not expecting it?  It doesn’t have to cost you a dime.  In fact those offerings can be even MORE special.

 

Sep 09

The 7 Myths why people get Stuck – #7

This is the seventh in a series of posts regarding the 7 Myths that keep people stuck.

As I’ve said before, we all have our own story.  None are less important than others

We also have stories that we’ve been telling ourselves or others have been telling us.  We’re hearing things like….

Myth #7 – “Be at the right place at the right time”

The key point from this is “Chance”

The assumption that’s false is “You stumble into greatness when you stumble into the right space”

The truth is “If you’ve prepared for the moment, then the moment is prepared for you.”

The real story is that I know people who won while in the wrong place at the wrong time and others wo lose when they were in the right place at the right time.  Stop banking on luck or coincidence and start something, do something or be something.  Success won’t happen on it’s own.  It takes more than prayer. This reminds me of one of my favorite sayings, “Luck is where Preparation and Opportunity meet.”

Myth … BUSTED!

Excerpt taken from The Deeper Path by Kary Oberbrunner, published by Baker Books, available here via Amazon. More info www.DeeperPathBook.com   www.amazon.com

Sep 06

Go Bearcats and Buckeyes!

Last Saturday was the first one with college football being played since January.  I love my Buckeyes.  When they won the 2002 National Championship I was beside myself with joy.

My enthusiasm has dwindled some over the years.  Although, my family will vehemently deny THAT – it’s true.  I used to be one of those guys that yelled at the TV and would be upset for a week if my team lost.  It meant so much to me.  I couldn’t stand it.

Last Saturday, at noon, there were two games on that I wanted to watch.  The Buckeye’s vs Buffalo (I can’t even recall their mascot…what does that tell you?) and the Cincinnati Bearcats vs. the Purdue Boilermakers.  You all may remember that my oldest son, Grant, just started at UC’s College of Architecture.  He’s excited about the freedom of college life and the ability to root for someone other than a poisonous nut (a.k.a. a buckeye).

You may also know that rabid Buckeye football fans don’t miss games.  They schedule weddings, birthday parties and school functions around Buckeye football.  Show me a wedding reception where the schedule for a wedding fell on “game day” and I’ll show you a nearby bar that’s full of ushers and bridesmaids fighting for a glimpse of the TV in the corner.  I remember those games very well.  You know who you are.  🙂

On this Saturday, though, my heart was with Grant.  He’d been gone from home for more than 10 days.  I know that’s not THAT long, but it is when it’s the longest stretch up to this point in his life.  The stretches will be longer and the time between texting and calling will get elongated.  We all have that to live with.

We’re not sad about this change, because we’ve all accepted it.  He was ready.  We were ready.  There’s no point in dwelling on it.

Like a lot of things in life, once you are honest with yourself, you can then be honest with others – and you’ll be believable.  It is, after all, the first step in discovering HOPE.

Good luck Grant!  Go Bearcats!  I love you!

Bearcat helmet

Sep 06

The 7 Myths why people get Stuck – #6

This is the sixth in a series of posts regarding the 7 Myths that keep people stuck.

As I’ve said before, we all have our own story.  None are less important than others

We also have stories that we’ve been telling ourselves or others have been telling us.  We’re hearing things like….

Myth #6 – “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know”

The key point from this is “Luck”.

The assumption that’s false is “You can blame your plateau on the person you don’t even know yet”

The truth is before others will choose to believe in you, they will naturally judge if you believe in yourself.

The real story is that I know people who emitted the right frequency and attracted the right people to them because of it.  Take a look at the election process.  In most instances we have two qualified candidates with loving families and large following of backers.  These are all people that believe in the candidate. None of that determines the outcome of the election or what happens with the winner’s associates or the loser’s.

In the sales profession, relationships are vitally important.  That doesn’t mean that they are the only thing.  You have to have something to sell and the customer has to have a need.  Without those two things, it doesn’t matter if you have a relationship or not.

Myth … BUSTED!

Excerpt taken from The Deeper Path by Kary Oberbrunner, published by Baker Books, available here via Amazon. More info www.DeeperPathBook.com   www.amazon.com

Sep 03

The 7 Myths why people get Stuck – #5

This is the fifth in a series of posts regarding the 7 Myths that keep people stuck.

As I’ve said before, we all have our own story.  None are less important than others

We also have stories that we’ve been telling ourselves or others have been telling us.  We’re hearing things like….

Myth #5 – “The early bird gets the worm”

The key point from this is “Scarcity”

The assumption that’s false is that there is only one worm.

The truth is “A mindset of scarcity, fear and competition will produce a toxic attitude of threat and defensiveness”

The real story is I know people who rush to take first and are in last place because of it.  I know a sales representative who always rushed to get the open accounts.  He thought that “if I don’t rush in, someone else will.”  Now others have seen him exhibit that behavior and now those people are not as inclined to work with him.  Who wants to be, THAT guy?

Myth … BUSTED!

Excerpt taken from The Deeper Path by Kary Oberbrunner, published by Baker Books, available here via Amazon. More info www.DeeperPathBook.com   www.amazon.com