Self limiting beliefs (you know, those things that creep into our “self-conscious” where we sabotage our self image and credibility) are bad enough, but THEN you have other people that add to those doubts. It goes something like this. I’ll tell people that I’m writing a book and beginning a speaking career and here are some of the responses that I’ve gotten.
- Who do you think would buy your book?
- How many speeches have you given?
- What makes you think you have anything to say that others haven’t heard before?
- What gives you the authority or the right to tell others what to do?
- What type of certification do you need before you can do that?
And, these are comments from my family and friends! I get it. They want to make sure that I don’t get hurt and I appreciate that, but this isn’t helpful. I wish that they would think of a constructive way of protecting me.
Before these questions come out of there mouths, I wish they’d say “that’s awesome” …”can I get a signed copy of your book?”…”you are and will continue to be an inspiration.”
I know this may seem that I’m “oversensitive” and “needy.” That’s probably true, but don’t put a label on me. Don’t put a label on anyone. People grow and change. Don’t think that because you knew me in high-school that you still know me. Maybe I’m better, maybe I’m worse but I’m certainly not the same.
So, what can you do? Listen carefully to the words of others. Be keen at identifying those that are speaking the words that you want to hear. If they’re your family, you can’t disassociate yourself from them. You don’t want to tune them out. If you can, you want to help them understand your position.
I know, it’s not always that easy.
However, when you do get with people that believe in you…unconditionally…you HAVE to make the most of it. By that I mean, share your hopes, wants and dreams. This is where true inspiration comes. Knowing when you have others around you with “like minds” is where the magic happens. This is where life gets breathed into your dreams.
If you’re wondering how you can find such a place, send me a note. I’d love to help you.